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Window Shop Your Way to a Life You Love!

By Julie Zeff

Not only can you window shop for style, but you also can window shop for your life. Window shopping in others’ lives is one great tool to help you figure out what a life you love looks and feels like! Most of us do it, anyway. You know when you see others who look as if they have it all together, or have something that catches your eye — some article of clothing, kind of car, home, vacation, relationship with their child, spouse, etc.? You know those sensations you feel in your body when you want that, too? That’s great information about what you want more of and that’s some fabulous window shopping!aa-woman-window-shopping

Many moms I know label that experience in their body as jealousy. And, when it stops there, it is a pretty yucky, unproductive feeling. Feeling jealous definitely won’t get you living a life you love. The good news is that you can transform jealousy into something productive and even empowering. You can use it as a trigger to make positive changes in your own life. Let jealousy inspire you instead of deflate you.

So, I invite you to practice the 4 steps below to take you from jealousy and inadequacy to empowering to living your vivid and extraordinary life.  It is fun and it is free.

  1. Name it! — Window shop all you want – give yourself full permission – you probably do it anyway. You might as well enjoy it or use it to help you get what you want in your life. Get curious about others who have something in their lives that you want more of. Name it! Get specific. What do you want more of? For example:  more respect, love and laughter in the relationships with my kids; or more fun and intimacy with my spouse; more vacations; a vacation home; anything…
  2. BodyTruth! — Look to your body to see what excites you and enlivens you when you think about having it yourself. Take the attention off the other person and bring it back to you. Is this something that you’d really like to have in your life? Remember: love it or leave it! Does it bring you joy, excitement or peace when you visualize having it yourself? If so, great. Then head to the next step. Don’t just stop here!
  3. Choose it! Create it! Visualize it! — You, too can have what you thought looked fabulous in the window. What can you do today, next week and next month to choose and create an energy, environment or situation for yourself that will help you get what you desire? What are you willing to change and do differently to get what you want? If you really want it, you absolutely can choose it and then create it. Visualize yourself having, doing, and being it! Here are some examples, but please don’t let these constrain you.  The sky’s the limit …  If you saw a mama and child playing in a fun and loving way at the park and you realized you wanted more of that, then who do you want to be and how do you want to show up differently in order to create that dynamic and that energy with your child? If you really want a vacation home, maybe it means scaling down your life at home, changing jobs, or even moving to a different city. Make some new choices to get yourself exactly what you most desire.
  4. Fears Aside! — Keep moving your fear, doubts or negative self-talk aside – I call these ogres. They are just there to keep you feeling miserable, jealous, like a failure or ineffectual. Their job is to keep you away from living a life you love.  Send them to the moon, put them in a box, bury them, send them to an ogre party or just ignore them and keep enjoying that window shopping and being curious.

Enjoy window shopping and creating a life you love … not just one you like! We all deserve and can have one!

Julie Zeff is a Life Coach for busy and working moms; author of Vivid Living for Busy Moms: Coach Yourself to an Extraordinary Life; and a trained Forest yoga instructor building strength and flexibility with emotional and spiritual intelligence. Request her FREE report – Top 10 Tips to Vivid Living –  or receive her FREE Monthly Coaching Tidbits and 5 Anytime, Anywhere Breathing Tips by visiting: http://www.vividliving.net. Download a FREE peek of her book, Vivid Living For Busy Moms here: http://vividliving.net/julies-book

About Julie Zeff

Julie is a certified life coach, yoga instructor, author, and speaker who believes that absolutely everyone can live a vivid and extraordinary life. Her goal is to spread this belief and the tools to actually live it around the globe. Julie has worked for over 14 years in the personal growth and mental health fields. She brings the body (and often specifically yoga) into the coaching work that she does and brings life coaching into the yoga that she teaches. Julie teaches her clients to access the wisdom of their body and mind to help them transform their lives. Her professional mind-body journey began in 1998 when she worked as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Massage Therapist. She persistently tried to find a way to combine the two. But, it wasn’t until 2002 when she found Life Coaching (CTI, Certified Professional Co-Active Coach – CPCC) and Forrest Yoga (yoga teacher training) that there was a natural and passionate union that transformed her life and career forever. As a busy working mom with three children herself, she understands the challenges of trying to find that sweet spot in a busy world of work and family. She uses her own coaching tools each and every day to help her live a vivid and extraordinary life she loves! Whether through life coaching over the phone, or in a yoga class on a mat, Julie helps her clients tap into the innate truth and wisdom of their body and mind. They learn to make decisions with clarity and confidence. She guides them to courageously shed limiting patterns and beliefs. She helps her clients envision, design, and live their own unique, vivid, and extraordinary life. Julie was born and raised in a suburb of Chicago and now lives with her husband and three children in Atlanta, Georgia.

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  1. Wow! What a fun thing to do! I can see how this would be super productive in helping anyone create a more fulfilling life for herself. Very creative!

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