By Fredrica Syren
My 20-month-old son is a big boy. He has thick legs with muscles. He has big feet and hands. And he’s tall. I guess you would say he’s a solid little man. On so many occasions, at the park and other places, I have run into strangers who just cannot stop talking about how big he is, how stocky he is; and who cannot resist asking me “Wow! How much does he weigh?” etc. etc. etc. They even will laugh at him. I have to admit that I get super defensive since, first of all, in my eyes he’s perfect; but, second, he is not THAT big. He’s in the 90th percentile for height and in the 80th percentile for weight. In other words, he is perfectly normal. But when they talk, I feel as though my child is the incredible hulk, not my gorgeous toddler. They won’t even believe me when I tell them he’s like this on a vegetarian diet and does not eat sugar at all.
The ironic thing is that his 5-year-old sister is skinny but tall. When she was a toddler, people would not stop talking about how tiny she was, and they would ask if a vegetarian diet really was good for her and whether she needed some sugar???!!!.
I guess there is no “perfect” toddler, and that people will always compare kids and the way they look. I’m baffled that strangers would do this, but when it comes down to it, I am probably being sensitive and should just stop letting it bother me. I know that my kids look great and are super healthy, no matter whether they are solid or skinny.