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The Guilt-ridden Mom

By Fredrica Syren:

Ever since becoming a mom, I have grappled with guilt — the feeling that I always could and should do more, and that I should spend more time with my kids. It’s constantly a struggle, but the funny part is that I do spend a lot of time my kids. I’m fortunate to be working from home  since the birth of our second child 15 months ago, which gives me loads of quality time with my little ones. However, I still have other chores such as cleaning, cooking, doing laundry; and  I also on occasion have meetings and other tasks outside the home.

The other day Bella had a play date at our neighbor’s house. Since they also have a child Noah’s age, we came along for some toddler play and mama chatting. Kristen, my friend and neighbor, told me how she overheard the girls playing moms. One of the girls said, “Mommy, can you play with me?”  The other replied, “I’m sorry, honey.  I’m tired.” Of course, we know their play reflects what’s going on in their lives and, yes, we both admitted that sometimes we are too darn tired to play with the kids. And, yes, there is that guilt trip again.

But one morning my daughter asked me why Noah goes to day care only two mornings a week. I explained that when she was a toddler I worked many hours away, but now I work from home so I can be with them more.  She said, “ Well, Mama, that’s why you’re a good mommy — because you want to spend time with me and my brother.” This is how I got validation that my kids know, no matter what, that they are most important in my life.

About Green Mom

Fredrica Syren, the author and founder of Green-Mom.com, was born in Sweden. Her mother was a classically trained chef who introduced her to many eclectic flavors and skills at a young age. Her mom’s passion for the outdoors and gardening planted the seed for her own love of nature and healthy eating. She received a degree in journalism and has worked as a print, Internet and broadcasting journalist for many years with big businesses within Europe and the United States. After her mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer and she with pre-cancer, Fredrica changed her career to become a full time yoga teacher and activist. A longtime world traveler, foodie and career woman, she was exposed to many facets of life, but nothing inspired her more than becoming a mom. After her first-born, Fredrica began a food blog focusing on local, seasonal, organic & vegetarian dishes. Years of food blogging developed into the cookbook Yummy in My Tummy, Healthy Cooking for the Whole Family. Upon the arrival of her second child, Fredrica founded Green-Mom.com. Her vision was to establish a site providing insight about gardening, home and personal care, baby & child, and of course food & nutrition. Green-Mom.com hosts many talented writers shedding light on ways to incorporate eco-friendly and nutritious practices for busy families. She is an advocate for organic, local and sustainable businesses. Fredrica hopes to inspire social change through her lifestyle, passion and business. Fredrica lives with her husband James Harker-Syren and their three children in San Diego, CA.

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