By Julie Zeff
I took my daughter to Universal Studios, specifically Harry Potter World, for her 8thbirthday. Just her and me! I was excited about our trip, and envisioned endless hours of talking, cuddling and reading together (she is an avid reader).
Then we got on the road, a 7-hour drive from where we live in Atlanta to Orlando. We stopped at the first rest stop, and in my excitement and love, I reached out to pull her close and to give her a hug. She pushed me away with an embarrassed shrug. “Humph,” I thought. “Maybe it won’t be all cuddles this weekend, after all…”
We got to the hotel and I tucked her in. I gave her one kiss and she turned the other way. Then, in the morning we were off to Universal Studios, where there were lots of OTHER PEOPLE. So, of course when I went in for another kiss on her head while waiting in line for the Hogwarts ride, she shooed me away and swatted at my head as if I were an annoying fly and hissed quietly, “Mom, there are other people around!”
By this time, the Ogres were in my head. They were saying things like, “You are embarrassing. This is a preview of things to come for the two of you. Your relationship is doomed.” The Ogre voices quickly got louder and louder.
It was like that Pandora Radio App, the one where you type in the name of a song or artist that you like and then it plays a radio station with all of those types of songs – playing them over and over and over …
I had created in my head a radio station that was DJ’ed by my Ogres, played songs recorded by my Ogres, and even broadcasted commercials produced by my Ogres. The volume on this station was turned up — LOUD!
Finally, after a few hours of Ogre torture, I checked in with my HeartTruth – that place of truth and knowing deep within. I got crystal clear about the fact that my daughter is creating boundaries for herself. It is my job to let her do that with support and endless love. It is my job to trust and to hold our deep love and connection as a solid base for her to rest on, always. In other words “Don’t take it personally, Julie!”
From that moment on, all I had to do was turn the dial to the HeartTruth station (I had to practice doing this a few times at first). Soon, I was rockin’ out to some great, fun messages in my mind.
We had an amazing 4 days together! And, she even came to me to cuddle and let me cover her with kisses while waiting for some rides in those sweet early hours of the morning. I drank in those moments, and cherished every kiss and every cuddle.
This month, I invite you to get curious about which “radio” station is playing in your mind at any given moment in time. Choose to pump up the volume on your HeartTruth station.
To Pump Up the Volume on Your HeartTruth
Enjoy your HeartTruth station and the beautiful, life-changing music!
Much Peace and Love,
P.S. Click here to view a short YouTube video where I talk all about pumping up the volume! I’d love to hear your thoughts about the video. I’m going to create more. What would you like to see videos about?
Julie Zeff is a Life Coach for busy and working moms; Author of Vivid Living for Busy Moms: Coach Yourself to an Extraordinary Life; and a trained Forest yoga instructor building strength and flexibility with emotional and spiritual intelligence. Request her FREE report –Top 10 Tips to Vivid Living or receive her FREE Monthly Coaching Tidbits and 5 Anytime, Anywhere Breathing Tips by visiting: http://www.vividliving.net. Download a FREE peek of her book, Vivid Living For Busy Moms here: http://vividliving.net/julies-book