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In Honor of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month–My Story

By Fredrica Syren:

It was a day that was supposed to be a happy one. My husband and I were going to see our baby on an ultrasound: instead, it turned into devastation when we found out that our twins had no heart beats. I remember thinking “Why me?” and felt numb. Today I have two boys, but I still mourn my lost babies. Sadly, for 8 years I have mourned and suffered in silence. Just because I have my boys does not mean that I don’t often think about their siblings and miss them. I know the pain of their lost is something that will never go away…

It’s a sad truth that 1 in 4 or 5 pregnancies ends in miscarriage. It’s an experience filled with heartache, and the difficulty of1e0e6ecbec1bb60936ab80cf130e5b85 (1) this loss is so hard to explain. The problem is that we really don’t talk about it, and there is very little support for parents who have experienced the devastating loss of a child. For me, it took away my innocence for all my subsequent pregnancies. Any strange feeling would send me into fear of losing my baby, making the pregnancies both stressful and scary.

In 1988, President Ronald Reagan proclaimed October the National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month in honor of those who suffered a loss, including miscarriage, stillbirth, SIDS, or the death of a newborn. October 15th is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.

For myself and for anyone who has lost a baby, I understand that it means a lot to know our loss matters. I wish for more support for the parents like me and that being more open about it would be ok. It’s a normal mourning that unfortunately does not go away. Even though we may have another child, someone will always be missed.

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About Green Mom

Fredrica Syren, the author and founder of Green-Mom.com, was born in Sweden. Her mother was a classically trained chef who introduced her to many eclectic flavors and skills at a young age. Her mom’s passion for the outdoors and gardening planted the seed for her own love of nature and healthy eating. She received a degree in journalism and has worked as a print, Internet and broadcasting journalist for many years with big businesses within Europe and the United States. After her mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer and she with pre-cancer, Fredrica changed her career to become a full time yoga teacher and activist. A longtime world traveler, foodie and career woman, she was exposed to many facets of life, but nothing inspired her more than becoming a mom. After her first-born, Fredrica began a food blog focusing on local, seasonal, organic & vegetarian dishes. Years of food blogging developed into the cookbook Yummy in My Tummy, Healthy Cooking for the Whole Family. Upon the arrival of her second child, Fredrica founded Green-Mom.com. Her vision was to establish a site providing insight about gardening, home and personal care, baby & child, and of course food & nutrition. Green-Mom.com hosts many talented writers shedding light on ways to incorporate eco-friendly and nutritious practices for busy families. She is an advocate for organic, local and sustainable businesses. Fredrica hopes to inspire social change through her lifestyle, passion and business. Fredrica lives with her husband James Harker-Syren and their three children in San Diego, CA.

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