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Can You Spoil Your Kids by Holding Them Too Much?

By Fredrica Syren

Ever since my first baby was born almost 7 years ago, I’ve heard that you should not “spoil” babies and hold them too much, that they would then require being heldJames holding Bella all the time and wouldn’t self soothe or sleep. I guess there is some truth to this. If you hold your children all the time they, for sure, will protest when you put them down. Our first slept in bed with us a lot and, yes, she would wake up more, looking for me during the night. Our second would nap only if held and, yes, for a while he surely did not like going anywhere near a car or stroller because he just wanted to held all the time.

Recently though, I read a story featuring a little boy in Pennsylvania who was 2 years old and dying. The article about little Logan Stevenson , told how he had only a very short time left on earth and that he was to be the best man in his parents’ wedding right before he died. What caught my eye was a picture of his mom holding him. I cried for her since I could not imagine how she must have felt, knowing she soon would not be able to hold him again.

As I read this story, I looked down at my five-month-old in my lap, and looked over at my 2- and 6-year-olds who wanted my husband to lift yhem up. How can it be wrong to hold your children? They are kids for such F holding Baby Noahshort time.

Human touch is so important to children. It’s been proven over and over again that children who are loved and held a lot thrive. During the baby stage, human touch is the first communication between parent and child. Babies are being held constantly in the womb, so it’s natural that they like to be held all the time once born. Skin contact, the smell of the child and the child’s being held by you are calming to both child and parent. It will only benefit them, not harm them. In the end, most kids will naturally “grow out” of being held when they become more independent.

It made me realize how lucky I am that I can hold my kids all the time. From now on, I will never worry about holding my kids “too much,” and I will spoil the hell out of them.


About Green Mom

Fredrica Syren, the author and founder of Green-Mom.com, was born in Sweden. Her mother was a classically trained chef who introduced her to many eclectic flavors and skills at a young age. Her mom’s passion for the outdoors and gardening planted the seed for her own love of nature and healthy eating. She received a degree in journalism and has worked as a print, Internet and broadcasting journalist for many years with big businesses within Europe and the United States. After her mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer and she with pre-cancer, Fredrica changed her career to become a full time yoga teacher and activist. A longtime world traveler, foodie and career woman, she was exposed to many facets of life, but nothing inspired her more than becoming a mom. After her first-born, Fredrica began a food blog focusing on local, seasonal, organic & vegetarian dishes. Years of food blogging developed into the cookbook Yummy in My Tummy, Healthy Cooking for the Whole Family. Upon the arrival of her second child, Fredrica founded Green-Mom.com. Her vision was to establish a site providing insight about gardening, home and personal care, baby & child, and of course food & nutrition. Green-Mom.com hosts many talented writers shedding light on ways to incorporate eco-friendly and nutritious practices for busy families. She is an advocate for organic, local and sustainable businesses. Fredrica hopes to inspire social change through her lifestyle, passion and business. Fredrica lives with her husband James Harker-Syren and their three children in San Diego, CA.

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