As a mom, I have had to learn to read my kids, figure out what and when things are wrong, and how stand up for them — to be their voice when they don’t have one. Over the past 5 years, there have been many times when I have sensed something was wrong even though a doctor or teacher could not detect it.
For example, my daughter broke her elbow when she was 18 months old but the emergency room doctor told me it was out of its socket, not broken. I really believed it was broken and did voice this but not loudly enough. Looking back at it, I should have been her voice and I should have stood my ground. Since that experience, I’ve learned that it’s ok to be that “crazy bitch mom” because these are the most precious people in my life and they depend on me.
There was also one night when, after already going to bed, I strongly sensed something was wrong. I ran upstairs, lifted up my child, instantly realizing that he was having a fever cramp, which is a seizure brought on by a high fever. I had just learned about this: I knew that by the time you bring a child in this condition to the ER, it’s all over. Instead, we called our pediatrician, who told us what to do.
We have the best pediatrician in the whole world, who says that you can run tests and exams on children, but what he always listens to are the concerns and senses of a mom. So here I am, my beautiful children’s mom and advocate!